Today is Valentine’s Day, the day society has set aside for LOVE. So many are celebrating loved ones, and the symbolism of the holiday is everywhere…in the stores, television commercials, social media, at work. For some, this day brings so much joy, and for others it can bring feelings of sadness or hopelessness. So for those of you who get discouraged on this day, I want to give you a few tips and some encouragement to get through the day. Here’s a list of things you can do to help make the day a little more special for you.
Serve- when you serve others, you remove the focus from yourself onto someone else. Giving to others brings you a feeling of joy; and knowing that you were able to bring happiness to someone else is powerful. It provides you with a sense of connection to someone else, and you see the worth in making someone else smile if it’s only for two seconds. Life can be hard, and sometimes people need to feel encouraged, to feel like they are seen, and/or like they matter. We all face moments of sadness, so for a moment focus on bringing someone else joy. It doesn’t have to be a significant other. You can give a gift of love to a friend, a coworker, a family member, or you can volunteer. Research has shown that when you give to others, you are much happier than when you receive. To add, when you give, you make room to receive. Remember, the gift doesn’t have to be expensive, you can give time, a kind word, or a smile.
Pamper Yourself- If you don’t want to serve others, you can pamper yourself. Self-love is not selfish. You can’t give from an empty cup. It’s important to take care of yourself. If you can’t afford to go to the salon, treat yourself at home with a spa day/night. Cook yourself a good meal. There are so many DIY’s on the internet for at home spa treatments, as well as recipes to try- google is your friend. These options are budget friendly and you can learn how to make a new dish or two.
Entertainment- with yourself, or with family/friends. Turn on your favorite music, and dance the night away, or make it a game night. You can also watch a good movie. If the idea of romance is going to make you feel down, grab a good action or comedy movie. Not into movies, grab a good book. Make a cup of coffee or tea, relax on the sofa, turn off your cell phone and indulge in spending time alone away from all the distractions of the day.
No matter what you decide to do, I encourage you not to be critical on yourself for not “having a valentine”, and not to be bitter or angry. Relax, breathe, and enjoy the day. Life is a journey, and everyone has his/her own journey to take. Don’t get caught up in the symbolism of the day, and remember love is to be given every day, not just on special occasions. So be kind to yourself, love on yourself, spread love to others, and remember it’s better to give than to receive. Happy Valentine’s Day
